Friday, December 3, 2010

...ruNNinG aWaY fRoM mY pRobLeMs...

The broken up asphalt from a country road was under my feet and the sun was shining on my face. It was a warm November warm in fact that my tank top was wet and I had to keep pushing my big sunglasses up on my nose because the sweat was making them slide down. Music was playing in my ears, but not my usual selection of rap or pop or loud angry rock music. That day the music was different. They call certain foods "comfort foods". If I had to describe what I was listening to, I'd say that this music was like "comfort food" for my that I've loved for a long, long that is that calms me and reminds me of good things.

My legs were sore and my right knee was aching from a tough workout earlier. I knew I had no business running...that I had done enough and needed to rest...but I couldn't stop. I NEEDED to run and I was not going to stop until it was time...until I felt better. I didn't know how long it would take and so I dug in and got into a quick but relaxed pace...trying to ignore the tears that fell from underneath my big black sunglasses. The tears were not because I was tired...or because of the dull ache in my knee. The tears were for other reasons...hurt feelings...disappointment...frustration.

This scenario is not uncommon. The background or the reason varies, but the way I tend to get through it does not. I run. I run away from my problems when they begin to overwhelm me. The music sort of fades into the background and I have conversations in my head. Sounds crazy...I know. Sometimes it's me talking myself through something...a regret...or a bad choice...or a heart ache. Sometimes it's me telling another person what I desperately need to tell them in my head, because I can't find the courage to do it to their face. Sometimes I try to think of possible solutions to my problem. Sometimes I just plain feel sorry for myself. The "conversation", weather, location, music, and subject matter may vary, but one thing never changes. No matter how tired I am or how much it hurts or how dark it gets, I run and I don't stop until I feel better...because I ALWAYS feel better at some point.
Some people say that you can't "run away from your problems", but I disagree. Running and crying and thinking helps me sort things out. It gives me a chance to fall apart without anyone else around. It's a chance to step back and look at things in a different way. It's a release. And sometimes it's a way to let go of things I can't change. It's like I get so tired that I decide I can't carry those things with me any more and I have to drop them on the side of the road in order to continue running and make it back home.

It may seem crazy, but it works for me. And it may seem weak, but I know how hard it really is. Sometimes running away from my problems is just what I need in order to face them head on when I get back home. So, as long as I have problems, I guess I'll have to keep running way from them.



  1. agreed, sounds like a good release, a healthy way to let stress go!

  2. ["It's like I get so tired that I decide I can't carry those things with me any more and I have to drop them on the side of the road in order to continue running and make it back home."]

    Awesome! So true!!! There is No better way to face our "monkey chatter" and musings than through the meditative trance of rythmic breathing and the strengthening sensation of our fleeting feet over the earth. Happy running!:)

  3. I definitely use running in this way! When I feel that upset or stressed or wound up or unhappy, it's like I can retreat into my body, and the pure exertion and rhythm of it. I don't think it's running away though. I'm doing something productive. It makes me feel strong and capable. It makes me believe I can challenge whatever the hell it is that's eating at me. There's no way it's weak; this is about kicking my own ass, and then having the confidence to go out there and do battle with life. This is about being weak. It's about reminding yourself that you're strong.

    ps - found you through the SINS facebook page :-)

  4. I know exactly what you mean. Except I don't run to get rid of my problems, I do sledge hammer swings onto a tire until I can't life my arms. Sometimes I cry, but I always sweat and I ALWAYS feel better afterwards.

    Keep up the good work! You really are a great inspiration to us girls!

  5. Works for me as well. Good post.

  6. Thanks ladies!!! Y'all are as much of an inspiration to me as I am to you!