We've all been guilty of doing it. It's human nature. We are quick to judge on outside appearances. We decide whether or not a person is worthwhile. We compare ourselves. We make assumptions. Sometimes we like what we see and sometimes we don't. Many times whether or not we like it has more to do with ourselves than it does the person we are looking at. We criticize to make ourselves feel better and we comfort and lull ourselves by making quick judgements and convincing ourselves that we are right and others are wrong.
Some people even take it a step further, they convince themselves that other people's successes are an attempt to make them feel like a failure. For some people, life, happiness, and success are a "zero sum game". A "zero sum game" is a situation where one person's gain can only result from another person's loss. These are people that spend their time trying to prove others wrong so they can feel right...people that cannot feel good about themselves without tearing other people down either directly or non directly depending on how courageous they are...people that focus on what other people are doing rather than what they can do themselves to make a real difference and have a positive influence.
The next time you find yourself judging someone else...the next time you start to feel envious or have a desire to talk about another person...take a moment and determine what it is that is bothering YOU. Explore your feelings and stop projecting your insecurities outward. Have enough internal strength to overcome those feelings and be strong...not just in appearance...but in character as well.