I've said it many times...I'm different...not like anyone else. Growing up and even sometimes now as an adult, I have described myself as weird. I think about and see things from a little different angle than most people. I speak without thinking, and at times I find inappropriate things to be funny. I laugh when I'm nervous, even if it's a serious situation...one that no one else would laugh about. I can be terribly quirky, and when I'm focused or "into" something...I can be borderline obsessive. Many times, when I order my food at a restaurant...it takes a long time and the person I'm with may think they are with Sally from the movie "When Harry Met Sally". I need certain things on the side. I substitute one sauce or side for another. I always open and rearrange my hamburger so all the ingredients are "straight" and just how I like them. Most things in my life are different, and so I have many adventures and life with me is hardly ever dull.
My life inside the gym is not much different than outside in terms of being different than many people. Most people want to feel as little pain or soreness as possible. I like to be pushed hard. I like to use and channel the pain. Most people want to stick with movements and methods of weight training that are familiar and or fun. I like to do Power lifting or Olympic lifts
while other people are sitting on machines, and it's not because I'm
especially good at it. Agility, balance, and coordination are NOT this girl's strong points! Most people want to have an enjoyable experience in the gym. People go to the gym to escape stress. They want to have fun and do whatever they want to do that day or visit with friends on the treadmill. I enter the gym with butterflies and nervous anticipation, and I like that. I like the feeling of panic that I get at the
beginning of a workout that is really hard...when I wonder inside how I
will finish, even though I ALWAYS do. I like the fear of being chased
by my friends that become my competitors at the gym during a group workout, but most
people don't and that makes me and everyone else like me...a little different...a little weird.
It's hard not to feel conspicuous or wonder if maybe we should try to conform and be a little more "normal" at times, but the truth is...if you want something different...something more...you have to be willing to do things differently. You have to be willing to stand out or look a little foolish. You have to accept that not everyone will like or agree with you. You have to be willing to step outside the box that most other people are standing in. Sometimes when we step outside the box and we
do things that other people are not yet willing to do, it can make us
feel alone because we ARE different. What we have to remember, is that different does not equal bad.
Be grateful for the qualities that make you who you are!
Don't feel apologetic or get the desire to change who you are so you
can try to be like everybody else! Be willing to stand out and shine, and be proud of the great accomplishments that go along with that. Other people will always have their
opinions, because it's easy for the people sitting on the sidelines to
judge you. The voice that needs to reassure you and the only opinion
that should count...is your own. Be proud of who you are and how hard
you are working to make improvements and be strong. Ignore the critics
sitting on the couch or the jealous people that are too lazy to do what you do!
Just because you are different, it doesn't mean you are weird. You are a
one of a kind, special edition! Remember that today!
Sunday, April 29, 2012
Sunday, April 8, 2012
We've all been guilty of doing it. It's human nature. We are quick to judge on outside appearances. We decide whether or not a person is worthwhile. We compare ourselves. We make assumptions. Sometimes we like what we see and sometimes we don't. Many times whether or not we like it has more to do with ourselves than it does the person we are looking at. We criticize to make ourselves feel better and we comfort and lull ourselves by making quick judgements and convincing ourselves that we are right and others are wrong.
Some people even take it a step further, they convince themselves that other people's successes are an attempt to make them feel like a failure. For some people, life, happiness, and success are a "zero sum game". A "zero sum game" is a situation where one person's gain can only result from another person's loss. These are people that spend their time trying to prove others wrong so they can feel right...people that cannot feel good about themselves without tearing other people down either directly or non directly depending on how courageous they are...people that focus on what other people are doing rather than what they can do themselves to make a real difference and have a positive influence.
The next time you find yourself judging someone else...the next time you start to feel envious or have a desire to talk about another person...take a moment and determine what it is that is bothering YOU. Explore your feelings and stop projecting your insecurities outward. Have enough internal strength to overcome those feelings and be strong...not just in appearance...but in character as well.